![]() ![]() He couldn't commit to any single person and lied to them. At that point, he called him a whore and said it was with me along with everyone else who had dated him. He asked how I knew him and I told him we dated. I later met another person who works with him, and he referred to him as a "whore." I never mentioned how I met him nor said anything negative. Now his child is exhibiting major dysfunctions on a social basis. His ex wife of more than two years left him with a newborn after trying to love him and his lies. He would never stay with one woman and was a confirmed bachelor into his 50s. His payoff was for himself and rewarding him with sex from women, as well as new clients and attention. Yet there he was again and again, promising to take down his profile but he never did. This guy was exclusive with me - so he said - and made up every lie to justify why he was still on the dating site a year post dating, as well as being active on there. I have never met a more deluded person who maintained a mask of sanity while lawsuits and girlfriends suffered at his hands behind closed doors. I dated a chiropractor whom I met through a dating site. They have no conscience, so their reaction is validated to them to protect their bottom line: control and the rewards of steering the outcomes of others to feed their narcissistic supply. That is the most dangerous type of person to confront: a pathological narcissist or sociopath. I don’t need to confront him because it ends up in rage as it does with most narcissists, many of whom become dangerous. But, I also know when he is lying and I will act accordingly. When I say the lies are freaking ridiculous, I truly mean it. Lying about every aspect is easier than not being in control of others for him. He can never be wrong, nor is he empathetic. He always wants to be right to avoid looking unaccomplished or lesser than. If he respected others, he would allow them to have a reaction and not manipulate them into believing the lie. He lies about the most ridiculous crap just to avoid the other person's reaction. It’s easy to see why a child grows into a life of lies. Those same parents may also have mental health problems that, left untreated, make consequences biased and frightening for a small kid. This is especially true when the parent lacks the abilities for positive shaping and role modeling. Trust me when I say that such questions are painful and most wish to avoid them, so they lie.įor some people, like kids, it’s less painful to tell the truth when the consequences may be met with harsh criticism - something children wish to avoid and worry about losing a parent’s love over. So when a husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend are invited out but are not employed, they may not wish to go, but after being prodded and tensely pushed, they finally do, only to be met by, “What do you do for a living?” questions. The long held stigma against the unemployed comes with presumptions that are painfully inaccurate and insult the person. In this economy, it is known to be a horrible time to land another job. For example, a person may stop socializing due to job loss. For some, it is a way to avoid having to divulge things they do not feel are needed in certain social situations. Obviously that needs to be met with remediation or intervention. Lying is a way to prevent dealing with consequences for most. Get them help, but please, do not suggest a parent leave their spouse for lying until all avenues of remediation and help are investigated. However, to suggest people leave those people and turn their backs on them due to their lying is crap. It is understandable that others who are lied to become angry once they realize it. I want to commend those of you who are questioning why you lie - and asking for help. Her family members believe her and defend her instead of realizing that something is very wrong with her. She can be very very convincing in her lies. She is now on trial for several counts of fraud through falsification of documents. She can't live without money and has to steal, falsify documents, fool people for the sake of money. I know someone who is very good at lying but also is a spendthrift. ![]()
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